Reader says transsexuals
"into sexual perversion"

Occasional I receive an email that I believe should be answered, then published on this web site as a mean of educating all. The following letter is one such email. Unfortunately, the letter and my response are a "bit" long so you will have to scroll.

Original email

My response

-----Original Message-----

From: <email address>
Sent: Friday, September 08, 2000 4:21 PM
To: denise@moss-fritch.com
Subject: transsexualism and religion

Denise,

I read your website and thought that it was quite interesting. Your comments about transsexuals and mormonism seemed to make sense until I started researching the whole transsexual subject. I am a biological female, 24 years old who encountered a year ago (when I came home from being away at college) my younger brother dressed in my clothes. At first I freaked, but being quite liberal, composed myself and allowed my brother to talk and explain.

Since that day I have been wrestling with the idea that God made a mistake and that my brother really should have been born a girl. I sort of accepted the idea and started helping him (secretly and without the knowledge of my parents, who are converted Mormon's) find himself. For my own sanity, I started researching the idea. I know the reason why the Mormon's and some other Christian Churches consider Transsexualism wrong and that it is because the majority of all the "girls" I have had the opportunity to correspond and talk to were into sexual perversions. They kept asking me to borrow my underwear and if I wanted to come over to a panty party. Excuse me I told them. I know of no girls who have a party where they can hang out in there underwear. The mormon church has a strict moral code, which I don't totally agree with, which is why I haven't converted myself. That code frowns upon "free sex" as I call it.

Sexual perversion is the main reason why men and women get involved in Transgendered practices.

Now, if a man really feels that he really was born the wrong sex, then his tendencies should be just like a normal typical girl's. We are raised not to be tramps. Prostitutes, sexual pervertions are the simple ideas of men.

I told my brother this and found out that he was involved in the same kind of sexual practices. I told him, that I didn't believe that his feelings were real. If a person dreams of being a doctor, they spend all there lives studying medicine not trying to live like a doctor.

I hope your intentions are true. Instead of thinking that people are closed minded to your feelings, you are closed minded to think that everyone has to accept the way you are. Gosh, I still have people who dislike me because I'm me and don''t do things they like to do.

I think if you really believed yourself to be intersexed or transgendered you should have moved somewhere else to start your life a new. There are many people who move away to conceal their past or just because they want to begin a new life. NO matter how stupid it may be, Prejudice is human nature, we all have it.

As for me, I still love my brother for who he is but I dislike his ideas of what a woman is. I took him, dressed as a woman, to a party and to do things where women go, he told me he wasn't happy. I told him, being a woman, is not just in the close we wear, it's who we are, and how we live.

<writer's name>

Response

Good Evening <writer's name>,

Thank you for your email of last month. I had hoped to respond earlier, however with Allison’s 88-year-old mother (my mother-in-law) moving in with us in late September there was much pre- and post-move work. I am afraid our atrium still contains a large number of unpacked boxes, yet now with many boxes already unpacked at least one can negotiate through that room.

You stated, "Your comments about transsexuals and mormonism seemed to make sense until I started researching the whole transsexual subject."

I wish I knew what sources you used when conducting the research you mention. Based upon your comments throughout your email, you did not use even the standard research tools – dictionaries and encyclopedias. I have three electronic dictionaries and a couple encyclopedias. The "Webster’s New World Dictionary and Thesaurus" (© 1999 Macmillian Digital Publishing USA) states:

If you really wish to research "transsexuals", I recommend beginning with the dictionary and encyclopedias. You will also find a few non-technical books at Amazon.com, which you can list, than visit your local library to read. Otherwise, because of the incorrect concepts I find you have been given from your prior research, I would very much like to know which sources you used.

You wrote, "Since that day I have been wrestling with the idea that God made a mistake and that my brother really should have been born a girl."

Why do you presume that anyone who is not what others would describe as "like everyone else" is a "mistake"? Does that mean people born blind or deaf are "mistakes" because they are not like everyone else? Early in my years in the Army, after four attempts to record my fingerprints, an "expert" was sent to check. That expert quickly determined that my fingerprints were "unlimited" in pattern. Apparently 1 in 1,500,000 people have unlimited fingerprint patterns. Does that mean God made a mistake, or only that I have different fingerprint patterns?

None of the people I mention are "mistakes". Only people who were born different than what is thought by some people to be "normal", or like everyone else.

As for God making a mistake, have you considered that perhaps God deliberately made those so called "mistakes" to offer an opportunity for each of us to practice the compassion, concern, understanding, and caring for others He teaches? Those teachings are the cornerstones of what we describe as "Christian".

You wrote, "I know the reason why the Mormon's and some other Christian Churches consider Transsexualism wrong and that it is because the majority of all the "girls" I have had the opportunity to correspond and talk to were into sexual perversions." You also wrote, "Sexual perversion is the main reason why men and women get involved in Transgendered practices."

These are two of several of your statements that has me questioning the sources you said you used to "research" transsexuals. The statement that transsexuals are ". . . into sexual perversions" is completely false. That the Mormon church, and other religious groups which claim to be "Christian" yet do not follow Christ principles of concern for all, wish to spread. Their fears are phobias that really need to be addressed by psychologists before such fears damage society even more than those fears already have.

You write, "I think if you really believed yourself to be intersexed or transgendered you should have moved somewhere else to start your life a new."

Why should I, or anyone else, run off and hide? Your comment makes no sense. Society changes because people become educated and think for themselves, not being dictated as to "how" and "what" they must believe. Hiding changes nothing.

You also wrote, "NO matter how stupid it may be, Prejudice is human nature, we all have it."

Sorry, I do not accept your assertion that ". . . Prejudice is human nature . . ." I believe that most people wish to live their lives in peace without interference and dictates from the few who are so fearful and psychologically unstable that they believe they must control the beliefs and actions of everyone around them.

As I write this response to you there is occurring in Ohio a situation where a child, a "trans-child" as the media has referred to her, who has been taken from her parents by the court, county social services, and local school district despite letters from doctors and psychologists supporting the parents. Examination of the court records ordering the removal of the child from the parents shows the level of fear expressed by the court, social services, and school officials:

"NTAC has reviewed court documents confirming that it was school employees who questioned the GID diagnosis and that, ‘During a preliminary custody hearing, the courts apparently agreed with Franklin County Children Services that it was better to break up the family rather than allow a child to grow up not conforming to social gender stereotypes.’"

I am hoping you will respond to my note and identify the sources you used for your "research" about transsexuals. I also thank you again for your note. What you have expressed, while wrote, is believed by some and spread by others who fear those people who they identify as "different". I am going to remove the identifying information and post your note, along with my response, to the web site in an attempt to educate and enlighten others.

Sincerely,

Denise L. Fritch

    

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